If you struggle with anger, taking the time to measure your angry outbursts can be a helpful tool. Anger has such a negative reputation because of the way people react when this emotion surfaces. I often tell clients that anger is a signal that flashes across our lives to indicate that something is happening which may be very important in that one moment in time.
Challenge Your Pattern: Aggressive Behavior
Aggressive behavior is a style of expressing one’s feelings and needs in a way that violates the rights of others. This pattern of behavior will often generate fear in others and alienate them from the aggressor. An individual with a pattern of aggressive behavior will blame others instead of taking accountability for their actions.
Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO): How is technology affecting us?
FOMO, also known as the “fear of missing out,” has become a common phrase in today’s conversations (or at least for the twenty-something age bracket). For those of you who are not in the loop, FOMO is a term people at times use in reference to their frustration at not being able to be two or three or eighteen different places at once. They even use it in reference to their anger and sadness that they are “missing out” because they were not invited to an event or social gathering of sorts.
Being a Supportive Friend: The DOs and DON’Ts
Regardless of your own experience, you CAN be a supportive friend to someone dealing with the possible end of a relationship. Whether it’s a break-up, separation, or a full-fledged divorce, they need friends to lean on in this difficult time.
Addiction: Reconnecting with Community (Part 2 of 2)
While many western cultures seems to uphold this idea of independence and self-reliance, some other cultures seem to have a different idea of what kind of people they respect and who they see as strong and exemplary. Some cultures see strength in a person who involves others in their lives, plays a part in community, and exhibits generosity and hospitality.
Dealing with Complaining Friends
I have heard the question over and over again “What do I do about my friend when all she does is complain about things”. When you have a friend who likes to complain about their life, it can be emotionally draining and put you in a negative funk with them.
Relationships: The Law of Diminishing Returns
Economics. I make no claim to be an expert on the subject. However, I do know enough about the concept of diminishing returns to see it play out in other areas of life. It happens when a continued effort does not create the desired result.
Entrepreneurs: Focus on 2nd
If you are a world changer (ahem…or a workaholic), chances are you are not going to lose sight of the first priority. It’s the one that keeps you up at night. The one that you talk about. The one that you have trouble getting out of your head. However, your 2nd or 3rd priority (while still important) likely gets far less attention. It’s easy to convince oneself that 2nd or 3rd place is only a degree or two behind 1st place, but then the question becomes – is that really the case?
Relationships: Confessions of a Double Date
After three weeks of coordinating schedules and organizing supervision for a total of 3 children, my husband and I went on a double date. What started off to be just a fun night out turned out to be so much more.
Emotional Vampires and Changing Weather
As the summer turns to fall and fall brings winter, those of us in southern states are constantly reminded of change. When we leave for work in the morning, we need sufficient warmth of a strong cup of coffee and a thick coat and by noon we are taking off the layers and sporting our short sleeved shirts and ready for a cold drink to cool us down. Weather patterns in our region can be frustrating and unpredictable.