Imagine a large dining room table full of food, family, and maybe an animal or two trying to locate the best time to attack the turkey that is sitting way too close to the edge. One would think that this scenario is what most people will experience this Thanksgiving. However, what about the single people?
HALT Part 4 of 5 – Am I feeling lonely?
The first time I heard that HALT method explained to me, I didn’t quite understand why loneliness made it on to the list. Most of us are aware of the fact that, on some level, being hungry or tired can make us irritable. And it makes sense that if I’m angry about one thing, I might take it out on someone else. But why loneliness? The answer has to do with two concepts: attachment and secondary emotions.
HALT Part 3 of 5 – Am I angry?
The HALT method is one of the most useful tools I have ever come across as a therapist. Whenever you find yourself heading towards a fight with your spouse/coworker/etc., ask yourself: Am I feeling hungry, angry, lonely or tired? This simple question has the power to radically transform those conversations. … Read More
HALT Part 2 of 5 – Am I hungry?
It may sound counterproductive to pause the conversation and take a lunch break, but by doing so, you can prevent a potential conflict from descending into a kitchen-sink fight that will take much more time.
HALT Part 1 of 5 – Something to remember just before your next fight.
This is hands down one of the most helpful tools I have ever come across as a counselor. It’s a fairly common question used for self-reflection in recovery circles. You may be familiar with it if you or someone close to you has ever struggled with substance abuse. However, the … Read More
Far from loved ones? Tips to stay connected!
Due to college, jobs or relationships, most of us live in a different state or even country than our friends and family. If this is the case, how do we stay connected with one another? Here are a few tips to stay connected.
Feeling Stuck? Moving to a new city might just be the answer!
Have you ever thought about packing up everything you own and moving to a new place? Maybe its for adventure, maybe its because of a breakup, or maybe its just because you’ve lived in the same place your whole life. Whatever your reason might be, you are making a great decision. Moving to a new city can have a very positive effect on your psyche.
Challenging Cognitive Distortions is like Shopping for New Shoes
Many cognitive distortions have established the rules governing the way we think and act. Cognitive distortions are like a pair of old broken down shoes. You have worn them for so long that they are molded to your feet. Change is difficult and means you need to be brave enough to try a different thought.
How Vacations Positively Affect Your Mental Health
Vacations help to alleviate stress. When someone is under chronic stress, it begins to take a toll his or her physical and mental health. Taking a vacation has the ability to break the cycle of chronic stress.
Know Your Empathy Limits
Empathy is an essential component in communicating with others in a healthier and kinder way. It’s the ability to feel what another person is feeling from their perspective or “putting yourself in someone else’s shoes” as some would say it.