Three more tips to help open the lines of communication with teenagers. Request your teenager’s opinion. I know this sounds dangerous, but often parents can be stubborn or controlling and issue an ultimatum or make a demand rather than actually listening to their teenager. Often it is easier to focus … Read More
Learning from Loss
I love these words that Pat Conroy wrote in his introduction to the book, My Losing Season. “Loss is a fiercer, more uncompromising teacher, coldhearted but clear-eyed in its understanding that life is more dilemma than game, and more trial than free pass. My acquaintance with loss has sustained me … Read More
If you were 16 in 1895…
Several years ago an elderly aunt gave me a journal from 1895 written by a 16 year old great uncle. (He was actually 16 years, 3 months and 3 days on January 1st and the weather for the day was bleak and cold.) I opened the journal with great excitement, … Read More
Eating Disorders: “Reclaim yourself and create a life that includes peace, joy and fulfillment”
In the book “8 Keys to Recovery from an Eating Disorder” by Carolyn Costin and Gwen Schubert Grabb, the authors explain that the road to recovery from an eating disorder is not about a “linear” fix. Most of the time, someone does not just “get it” like learning how to … Read More
What Does “I love you” Mean to You?
Does it mean “I passionately love you and can’t live without you” Does it mean “I accept you for whom you are and can live with that.” Does it mean that “up to now you haven’t disappointed me, so keep up the good work?” We so often have different meanings … Read More
Communication Tips for Parents of Teenagers
As parents, there are some ways to help facilitate good communication with your teenagers. I am suggesting three. When you have something in particular that you want to talk about, limit the time and stick to the subject. We’ve all been involved in conversations where the other person monopolizes the … Read More
Friends
You remember the hit TV series…right? There was always something going on, whether it was one of their love lives or just everyday occurrences. They always seemed to be there for one another. Admittedly, some of their advice wasn’t always the best, but they were friends, and friends are there … Read More
Why do kids mis-behave?
If you have ever wondered why your kid continues to do the opposite of what you ask them to do, then you can join the thousands of parents who I’m sure have asked the same question for centuries. Like you, your kids chose their behavior for a reason, however the … Read More
Sexual intimacy is a two party affair
The Bond of Sexual Intimacy: How do partners openly share this bond that means so much to a relationship? Communicating from the beginning, as to what is and what is not acceptable to each is a good start. When one is able to share their feelings about this very important … Read More