It isn’t easy just to move on after a lasting relationship. There are many memories, both good and bad, that play in one’s mind. We can tell ourselves that we’re strong and although that person was meaningful in our life, given enough time, we can get past them. But the question is still how do I move on?

With all the thoughts and feelings created within the relationship time isn’t necessarily the great healer. It’s important to understand how and why the bond was first created. What attracted you to that person? What traits and characteristics drew you to them? Was their personality truly compatible to yours?

So often folks quickly enter into a new relationship for fear of being alone. Or maybe it’s because they just ended a relationship and are on the “rebound.” Neither of these are healthy reasons for darting into something new without giving the proper time for healing and experiencing the sense of loss that accompanies ending a long-lasting relationship. There is a sense of grief that needs to be considered also.

By providing time for yourself to truly heal, you can develop a healthier sense of who you are, which will help you avoid bringing negative thoughts and feelings into your next relationship.