This is part 3 of a 4 part series. Read part 2 HERE
- Develop patience. Sustain it.
- Think about what your spouse says in terms of who your spouse is.
When a conversation is stressful, find a way to relieve the stress. A deep breath can work wonders. The relationship becomes stronger when there is mutual understanding. Pace the dialogue in a way that will bring healing to the relationship. When one partner is focused on gaining the high ground and winning an advantage, the relationship suffers.
Try to develop a “relationship” perspective. You each have your own perspective on a situation, but neither is the only point of view. Maintain your own perspective, but not at the risk of harming the relationship. You need to both know and be known by your spouse. Think relationally.
Adapted from The Power of the Middle Ground, Marty Babit
Marlayne Whitlock, LAPC
MWhitlock@ GROWCounseling.com