We are discussing various tips for the holidays when you are in a new relationship, casually dating several people, or in a relationship that hasn’t been officially defined. This time of year can be stressful and filled with pressure and expectations for all dating relationships. So far we’ve talked about when to define the relationship, whether or not invite each other home for the holidays, and whether or not to give gifts. Today let’s talk about those company parties.

Invitations to Company Parties 

Sometimes a company holiday party is a function where a date is expected. Others do not allow guests. If his (or hers) requires a date, chances are he will invite you because he needs to come with a date. Don’t misinterpret this to mean anything more serious than it is. Also, if she hasn’t invited you to her company party, it might be that guests aren’t allowed. Don’t make assumptions either way.

If your new dating interest invites you to his or her party and you feel it’s too soon or too much pressure, decline in a loving way: “Wow, thanks for wanting me to come, but if it?s okay I would rather wait until we have been dating a little longer.” Then offer to go out for a date on another night. By doing this you avoid rejecting him or her personally, while also affirming your interest in continuing to date.

On another note about holiday parties, only invite a new love interest if you can pay him or her appropriate attention. Inviting someone to an event and then leaving them alone in a corner is just plain rude. Consider whether or not the majority of your time will be required elsewhere, and opt to go single if you will be pre-occupied.

Stacey Wald, LAPC, RD

Swald @ growcounseling.com