Were you ever the kid in class that when you knew the answer to a question the teacher asked you would be raising your hand, waving it all through the air and go “ooh, ooh, I know, I know?” Neither was I. However, there were some who did. I often think if they’re the same way today. They were the talkers, the conversationalists, those who would always be willing to share what they were thinking and feeling. Do you have feelings that you suppress from your spouse or significant other? Do you have the desire to talk about those feelings, but don’t know how?

Sharing our feelings isn’t always easy. In fact, it can be very difficult. The idea of knowing you’ll be safe after sharing them sometimes can be hard to believe. However, holding in what you need to express is usually less healthy. We all need to know that what we feel is meaningful. So give yourself that freedom. Open up and present yourself to those who give you that opportunity.

By allowing for positive expression of your feelings, you may receive back from someone who is willing to hear what you have to say. They may have the desire to learn more about you, but how will they unless you talk about it.

Stacey Wald, LAPC, RD

swald@ GROWcounseling.com