So, here it is a month after he bought you flowers and you gave him a new BluRay. It was a very romantic and fulfilling evening. Then the month passed and things just sort of went “back to normal.” Why is that? Where is the fire and passion that ended that evening? Shouldn’t it still be there? Was there something magical or mystical about the 14^th of February that is somehow missing from so much of the remainder of the year?

Here are just a few tips to keep the fire burning and the love-light lit:

First: create proper boundaries for you and your loved one. Keeping others out of your lovelife can be extremely beneficial. This part of your relationship should be intimate and meaningful to only you two. Next: be vulnerable. Always allow conversation to be open and precise when it comes to your romantic side. Finally: Guys, get in touch with that emotional side and show it to her all year round. Ladies, provide him the opportunity to tell you how he feels, without explaining to him how he should feel.

Keeping the flame alive and each person staying within health parameters provides the safety she needs and the support he requires. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a one time of year event in a loving relationship. It can last throughout the other 364 days and lead to a lifetime of romantic and enjoyable nights of passion and pleasure.

Mark Ellison, LAMFT
mellison@ GROWcounseling.com