As a man demonstrates his love by doing things not done before, how does the woman show her appreciation and thus, the respect, that a man needs? Well, to begin with, when he is attempting new things, allow for mistakes. If his intentions are well meant, remember to give him some latitude in making errors. He may not always “get it right.” After all, he is just a man. Yet, he’s a man who is trying to make a difference in your relationship. Does being critical help? The answer would be a resounding NO! Will loving guidance gain some desire to do more? Probably so. This is a joint effort where he does more around the house and she gives him what he requires.

Without the respect that is required from the woman, the willingness to return honor and love lessens and commitment can often fail. If this lack of respect is fueled by antagonism, the structure of the relationship can suffer tremendous harm. If a woman gives the added admiration to the man he will be more willing to promote the woman and the overall connection and bond between the two will be enhanced.

Relationships are advanced by the give and take principle. The more each gives, the more they’ll hopefully be able to take from it. Without proper consideration between the two, all means of attempting healthy dialogue, touch, and interpersonal rapport might be barred preventing the deep love and respect so needed by each. The key is to give what the other person desires to make it a full and enriched correlation of love and respect.

Mark Ellison, LAMFT
mellison@ GROWcounseling.com