More women are in the workforce than ever before. The need for both parties to work together harder at a relationship now also exists. But what does that look like? As women have undertaken the responsibility to create extra income and a more pleasurable way of life, wouldn’t it only be reasonable that men share in lightening the home load? There is a true desire that women have which is to be loved. Men can demonstrate their love by taking up the slack which occurs when women work outside the home. By providing the helpful hands to do laundry, take the kids to school or pick them up, maybe even some grocery shopping, these acts reveal a willingness to show love in very significant ways.

In addition to doing the “chores,” other expressions of love manifest in attitude, tone and demeanor toward a woman who has exhibited her intentions of helping to provide for the man she loves. Given this, how else can men show their love? When differences of opinion occur over significant issues, a man can express his feelings without allowing loss of self control. This means assisting in keeping healthy exchanges in dialogue and not allowing hurtful things to be said or done to the one with who he’s in love. Also, giving adequate attention to the woman is momentous.

Both men and women need attention, some more than others. It’s due to this need that some relationships are created and others maintained. It’s vital for a man to provide important and meaningful attention to a woman who has obligated herself to the relationship. By realizing the respect, sensitivity and devotedness that a woman contributes to the man, a man should in-turn provide security, love and honor to a woman

**We recommend the book Love and Respect (by Eggerichs) if you want some further reading on this!

Mark Ellison, LAMFT
mellison@ GROWcounseling.com