So, you’re registered for classes. You’ve bought new clothes. Cell phone is charged and ready. You’re all set. Oops, almost forgot, what about paying for it all? Got the FAFSA forms filled out, if using government funding? Have you been to the school financial aid office? Do they have ALL of your information, because if they don’t, you don’t (get to start classes with everyone else that is). The stress and anxiety, possibly some frustration, can all be caused due to the financial pressure associated with going back to school, for students and parents alike. Handling the stress and anxiety, and venting the frustration can all be done effectively if you are willing to follow just a few simple guidelines.

To begin with, accept the circumstances, don’t fight them. Realize as you enter into the difficulties, that within a relatively short period of time they will pass. Looking back you’ll be able to say that it really wasn’t so bad. Next, and this may seem way too obvious, breathe. Try not to begin hyperventilating over situations you can’t control. Learn to handle the most important matters first, secondary conditions are more easily maintained if you leave ample time to complete the significant issues in a timely and non-procrastinating manner. After you have managed to organize yourself and still find questions needing answers, ask. It’ll be better not to assume you know the answers. Ask who needs what, how do I get there, or whatever the case may be…ask, ask, ask.

Parents and students need to work together to accomplish the above tasks with the least amount of critical expression as possible. Times such as this are very trying for all concerned, so remember and attempt not to hurt those you love and cherish by allowing unkind or inconsiderate words and expressions to pour forth just to make a point. Stress under control demonstrates a person’s character and willingness to ensure others around them are treated with understanding and compassion. Patience is a virtue, especially in times when so much is occurring and anxiety mounts to levels that can cause individuals to explode. If everyone labors to provide that much required support and encouragement, the transition can proceed very smoothly.

Mark Ellison, LAMFT

MEllison@ GROWCounseling.com